“Sue” “Susan” “Susan!”. Her body shuddered as she reluctantly come back to reality. “where are you?” Jane asked, “in my own world” Susan answered. “okay Sorry I startled you.” Jane apologized sincerely and with that Sue drifted back to her world.
“………………………he went for her lips, they fitted perfectly, almost simultaneously their tongues met, twined, with the fire and hunger they explored, one of his hand on the back of her head and the other on her lower back, he lowered her to the grass.
His lips moved from her mouth to her cheeks, her neck, as he moved he lit fire, down he moved to her breasts.
He caressed her through the siphon fabric of her dress using his fingers and his lips. He unbutton her dress removed her bra and he continued working on the breasts, rubbing with his fingers and brushing his tongue from side to side on the nipples of her breast; He sucked them, kissed them, sucked them, again and again, The fire was lit and she moaned softly from the thrill. They changed position, the act of giving and receiving;………. she kissed him, passed her hands in his hair, kissed his neck, biting his flat nipples, she slid lower to the abdomen, tracing the navel with her fingers, lower she slid, found the fly of his trouser, he was hard, they switched positions; they stripped each other, and he took her, pulled closer to him, and entered her slowly…… (the other part is in between somewhere).
With the power of imagination and in the privacy and safety of our minds,we form scenarios which we may later act on or not act on.
This scenarios come from our general activity, past experiences, anticipated events and our wishes;that wish of a perfect lover.
We fantasize about real people we know personally, strangers, fictitious characters, or “idols” from all over the world. For example, a movie character who has 6 packs, full of muscles that we dont even know.
The combination that we get from internally generated fantasies and physical pleasure is very powerful since it leads to several arousal and pleasure.
DIFFERENCE OF FANTASY IN MEN AND WOMEN.
The more the sexual attitude, the longer and the more explicit form of erotic fantasies.
In Women the fantasy are more on sensory imagery-imagery of touch, sight, sound, taste and smells. They involve voluntarily submitting to a sexual situation that is pleasures.
While on men focus of fantasy is on body parts and sex acts, where he is powerful and aggressive. Common theme of men is coercing to have sex with them and them complying.
Fantasy is a dream like, sensuous or very explicit and vigorous.
GOODNESS OF FANTACIES
Fantasy are “organismic triggers” that is why therapist encourage it since it leads to intensified sexual arousal.
You engage in forbidden or impossible sexual situations when fantasying-in the fantasy you “test out” and create an “ideal response!” as you would wish for in real world.
The more Happy Erotic fantasy you have, lead to more satisfying sexual activity.
Fantasy help relive good sexual memories.
Fantasizing prepares you to win in the future, just like football players imagine winning the big game before they go to the field, so can you imagine winning in a perfect lovemaking act or Lover.
Fantasy lead to creativity with a real partner, since it is just like mental rehearsal of future possibilities.
Fantasy rules over two-thirds of the universe, the past and the future, While reality is confined in the present. (John Richter)
Sexual fantasy are normal,safe and potentially useful when shared with your lover.
“……………… She moaned softly, moving her hands up and down from his neck to his buttocks, the feelings somersaulting through her body and the blood rushing through her veins, Pleasure building by the second, with every stroke she moaned and urged him on, she wished he would never stop, he continues entering, withdrawing, deeper with each stroke, she opened wider her thighs, the sensation is out of this world, the shaking, the rhythm, the kissing……..
” sue, Susan! Why are you shaking? What are you thinking?” Susan rose slowly from the couch and went out without even looking at her sister.
Erotic fantasies are pleasurable, self-enhancing , and just plain fun.
Day dream, “Fantasize!”